Thursday, March 5, 2009
Choose Your Husband Wisely
I have heard reports that Rihanna and Chris Brown have gotten married. It's already been established that they have gotten back together, which seems ludicrous, but now it's circulating that they have gotten married. All I can think of, is why set yourself up for further heartache?
When I was in college, I heard a powerful abstinence educator and speaker, Lakita Garth, speak at the church that I attended. And, she said that after choosing who you are going to serve ( God), who you choose to marry is the second most important decision that you can make in your life. And, I COMPLETELY AGREE with her! Marriage is not to be taken lightly, and it can change your entire life, if you choose incorrectly. Choosing wrongly not only affects you, but affects any children that you may have together, your parents, and other family members.
I encourage any young unmarried woman to pray, pray, pray before they choose to marry someone. Search his character, his work ethic, what his views are on certain things. Check out his friends. Seek the advice of your parents, and other wise, loving adults and see what their opinion is of the person that you are interested in marrying.
It doesn't matter if you are 30, 35, or 40, and still single. It is much better to be happily single, than miserably married! Once married, you have to submit to your husband, and follow and support his vision. You will build a family, etc. I encourage ladies to not allow anything, not a ticking biological clock, family pressure, or anything, influence them to marry someone who is not suitable for them. Doing so only leads to greater heartache down the road.
Hold out, ladies. Hold out for the man who cherishes you, is kind and loving to you, is considerate of your time and feelings, who wants to provide for you and any future children that you may have, whose heart is committed to God, who has a teachable spirit, who seeks to live a Godly lifestyle, whose life goals line up with yours. Waiting for someone who loves and adores you is worth waiting for. Don't give your treasure(you) to someone who doesn't even understand your value. Because when someone doesn't understand the value of something, they are much more likely to abuse it, and not take proper care of it.