Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Today I have felt so much better. Things have gone pretty smoothly today, and the kids fell asleep at the same time!! My husband and I have been talking about our plans for after his retirement, and I'm just choosing to have faith about our situation. I pray, pray, pray, that I don't have to return to teaching. I would be so depressed, but I'm choosing to have faith that it won't come to that.
Yesterday, I discovered a new blog, and it's so cute. It's called The Glamorous Life of a Housewife. I liked reading her blog, because she talks about how she has always wanted to be a housewife, although she is currently working full-time. I can relate to that so well. When I was a teacher, I would sit and daydream about the day of becoming a full time wife and mother, and I just couldn't wait.
Although, I wanted to be a homemaker, I definitely did not use my single days to prepare for being a wife and mother. If I could give any advice to young ladies considering becoming a housewife, I would tell her:
1. Think now about what skills you could use to start a home business, or figure out something that you can do to earn money from home. It's so much easier to devote time to that now, while you have the time, than when the kids are there. Whether it's freelance writing, or selling crafts, start now. Then, by the time you have a family, you already have income generating from your home business.
2. Stay out of debt. Whatever you do, try to stay out of debt. Before I got married, I had almost paid off all of my credit card debt. And, then I charged more trying to pay for my wedding, and buying items for our home and such. Instead of just waiting and saving. That's the way to go. WAIT until you have the money, then PURCHASE!!!
3. Cook as much as you can. Cook for your family and friends, host little get togethers, and polish your hosting skills. It will come in handy. Invest in ccokbboks, take cooking classes, glean recipes and cooking advice from women that you know are great cooks. If you need inspiration, try watching Bravo's Top Chef. I love that show, and it inspires me to cook well for my family.
4. Learn how to keep a clean, orderly home.
5. Take care of children. Offer to baby-sit your friend's kids, your relative's kids, etc.
6. Choose A HUSBAND WISELY!!! I can't stress this one enough. Don't become desperate or become consumed with a handsome face. Look at his character and work ethic. Pick his brain on things that are important to you. Would he support you being a housewife and staying home with the kids? Choose someone who will truly cherish you and love you. Go for the nice guy!
7. Of course, nurture your relationship with God. Use this time to serve God with all of your heart, to study His word, and seek a deeper relationship with Him. It will help you as you navigate through life's ups and downs. And, give you the wisdom to make good choices.
That's all that I can think of for right now. I think these seven things are some of the most important things to help you prepare for your career as a homemaker. I'm sure there are more that I'm forgetting, but these stand out in my mind.
Have a happy Wednesday!!
Photos by Melinda Byers